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/ Don’t Waste Your Money On An Expensive Car

You don't live your life a quarter mile at a time.


"Hi. Uh, how are you ladies doing this evening?"

"What do you drive?"

"E- Excuse me?"

"What kind of a car do you drive?"

"Uh, Cavalier.  It’s… It’s red. I have… It’s a red Cavalier."

"That’s nice."

— Swingers (1996)

Sure, women at a Hollywood Hills party may demand you state your car’s make and model before they talk to you, but for the most part you don’t need an expensive car to get women.  Aside from a few exceptions, I consider buying an expensive car one of the most cost-ineffective things you can do for DHV, and here’s why:

1. It’s only negative if your car really sucks

Mikey’s red cavalier was probably a pretty crappy car, but most women won’t care unless your car is a total piece of shit.  Otherwise, if you’re driving something like a Honda Civic, does it really matter?  Owning your own car demonstrates high value, but a $10,000 difference in sticker price isn’t going to make a difference in her attraction to you:

Sure, if you can pick her up in a red Ferrari and take her out to south beach in Miami, you’re going to look like a fucking badass and you’ve definitely amplified your chances of getting laid.  But picking her up a base model BMW or Lexus may mildly impress her for about twenty minutes, if that.

2. You don’t live your life a quarter mile at a time

Unless you’re constantly commuting, how much time do you actually spend in your car?  It’s only a fraction of your day, which means it’ll only be a fraction of the time you spend with any girl.  Why spend a bunch of money on something that’s going to sit in your parking garage or driveway most of the time?

Sure, driving a high-performance car is fun, until you realize you’re not drag racing with Vin Diesel and Paul Walker (RIP, buddy) every weekend.  You’re stuck in the same traffic and driving at same speed limits as everyone else.

3.  Spend that money on other ways that demonstrate high value

I’m not arguing that an expensive car is not a DHV, it’s just very cost-ineffective.  Every single commercially produced car is a depreciating asset.  Once you drive it off the dealer’s lot, your car has already lost 15% of its value, and it only drops from there.  So if you buy a $25,000 car instead of a $35,000 car, think about what you could do with that extra $10,000.

  • If you live with your parents, you could get your own place and furnish it.
  • If you already have your own place, you could upgrade your furnture, TV, sound system, etc.
  • Put the money towards a down payment of a condo or house
  • Buy a luxury item that appreciates in value, like a nice watch.
  • Work out with a personal trainer 3 times a week for a whole year.

And this is just the top of my head.  But all those options either have that money that will dramatically increase your quality of life compared to an expensive car.  And they’re all superior ways as a DHV to a woman, simply because she’ll spend way more time at your place than in your car.  Do you want to pick up a girl in a Honda Civic and take her back to your cool apartment, or pick her up in a BMW and then take her back to… your parents’ place?

With all that said, there are probably at least two valid exceptions.

1. You legitimately love cars

As you can tell, I’m not really a "car guy."  But a lot of guys are, and that’s totally fine.  If you legitimately love cars and don’t just see them as vehicles to get from point A to point B, then it’s totally fine spending a lot of money on a good car.  But that’s because you’re doing it for yourself, not just as a DHV for women.

2. You’re so fucking loaded it doesn’t matter

Notice in my graph above, at a certain price point I have DHV spiking.  This is the "driving in a red Ferrari to south beach" scenario.  Owning a car that costs over $100,000 sends a message that you’re probably rich enough to buy whatever the fuck you want, and that alone is a huge DHV.  At Josh indicated, ownership of an expensive item is one of the easiest ways to say you’re rich without saying it.  But for the rest of us that aren’t millionaires, we’re better off investing the money we do have in improving other areas in our lives.





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