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/ Fashion is for Others

What you wear isn't just for you.

One of the most frustrating things for me to figure out growing up was fashion. I was a rather unfortunate case. My parents did not grow up in the US so their idea of how to dress was definitely not what the cool kids wore. I swear I showed up to school wearing yellow sweat pants up until the sixth grade, and that might not have even been the worst fashion faux pas I had.

In seventh grade, I started to get it, or so I thought. I begged my parents to just buy me the same clothes that everyone else wore. I tried to imitate. Imitation is better than yellow sweat pants, but imitation isn’t the same as really knowing how to dress. However, it is a start, and it is the right direction. The reason I say this is because unlike many other elements of being an alpha male and developing as a person, when it comes to fashion, imitating is ok. This is because, at the end of the day, fashion is for other people.

Think about it. What is the purpose of fashion and style? I hope it’s not to look good for yourself in the mirror because that is just weird. It isn’t for you; it is to attract others or send a message to others. Because of this fact, how you think you look has very little bearing on what you should wear; provided that you can feel comfortable and confident with yourself even if you don’t like what you are wearing personally. This is easier said than done but it is part of why this article is here: once you accept that fashion isn’t about how you think you look but about how others think you look, it will help you become much more comfortable and confident no matter what you are wearing!

This may sound strange coming from me. As many of you who have read other articles on <a href=""></a> will know, I generally discourage imitation and routines; opting instead to show the theory behind an idea or technique so that you can adapt it to your own style. However, fashion is not one of those areas. When it comes to fashion, I wholeheartedly encourage you to find the “style” that fits in with your crowd and those you want to attract and imitate!

If the girls you are interested are into the hipster look, have some hipster outfits, even though you think they look stupid (which I do, by the way). If you are out a lot with the business crowd put some effort into wearing properly fitting shirts and pants. If you go to clubs regularly, don’t be the guy who dresses like a homeless bum because he “doesn’t care” and “doesn’t think it should matter”. This advice applies not just to picking up women but to life in general. I couldn’t care less about dress codes and I think they are ridiculous, but why leave a bad taste in peoples’ mouth by being that one guy who tries to find loopholes in the dress code. Fashion isn’t about that. It isn’t about you. It is about others.

Now this article may have come off as suggesting that you should dress in a way to blend into the crowd as much as possible. This isn’t optimal either. It is why I mentioned earlier that imitation is a good first step but it isn’t really knowing how to dress. What you should strive for is understanding the essence of fashion and then adding your own little twist, your own panache, your own style so that you can stand out in a subtle way while still fitting in. Check back @ <a href=""></a> for more articles on how to add style and flair while staying trendy and “in”.

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