November 23, 2013 / How Do You Know If Your Dating Profile Is Good?
Finding out if your dating profile is good is simple.
There is a lot written about how to write an online dating profile. Also, one of the most common questions about online dating is: "How does my profile look?" This article isn’t about how to write the best profile (You can learn more how to do that here), it’s about how to accurately evaluate whether or not your profile is good. Believe it or not, most people not only write poor online profiles, but have no clue how to even tell if their profile is good or not!
What Not To do
Evaluating a profile is very easy to do, but before I tell you exactly how to do it, here are a few common ways that are NOT the right way to evaluate.
1. Asking a random guy friend to read your profile and give his opinion
Asking an EXPERT is one thing, but just asking a random friend "what do you think" is unlikely to be a good gauge. First of all, it isn’t guys who are going to read your profile, it is women, so what good is getting a random guy’s feedback? If the guy has a lot of experience with online dating and has a good profile (per the method to determine I will show you later), then listen.
2. Asking a random girl friend to read your profile
Asking a girl is better than asking a guy, but it still isn’t a great strategy. This may seem strange to you, but let me explain. The issue with asking a woman is that asking a woman what she thinks of your profile when being forced to read it is a very different experience than what women go through on the site. Women are not reading your profile critically when they browse, so while you may have a great profile if someone takes the time to read it all, most women do not do that when they are actually online! The difference in results is DRAMATIC.
3. Judge based on your success online
At the end of the day, success online is the key, but being successful online doesn’t mean you are as AS successful as you could be. Your success could be DESPITE your profile, and not because of it. You need to be more scientific about how you evaluate different profiles versus just assuming your profile is good because you get girls online.
How to judge if your profile is good.
Now that I told you why the common approaches aren’t super effective, here is how you actually do it: If you are not REGULARLY getting e-mails commenting about how great your profile is, then your profile needs work. Simple! When you have a truly great profile, the VAST majority of e-mails you receive from women will comment on how great your profile is. Seriously. You will get e-mails that say "best profile ever!", or "amazing profile", or "wow, that is a really unique profile". This list will not only be endless but it will make up the majority of e-mails you ever get.
For example, below are a couple screen shots of messages I have gotten (there are hundreds if not thousands like these) with my profiles (which I share here).
When you get literally hundreds, if not thousands of e-mails like this, then you KNOW you have a good profile. Every other measure does not hold a candle to this one.
I reveal the profiles that got these results in my e-book, Sway Seduction.