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/ Two Reasons Women Talk About Other Men

If a woman brings up other men to you, it could mean one of two very contradictory things.


One major difficulty in reading women is that you cannot go inside their head and actually know what they are thinking. You have to evaluate them based on their behavior, and not their thoughts. Sometimes, the same behavior can occur in women who have dramatically different thoughts or agendas behind their behavior. One of the most common examples of this is the situation when women talk about other guys.

Girl keeps talking about other guys

When a girl talks about other guys (especially guys who are courting her or who she used to hook up with) it usually means one of two things: she is either (1) not interested in you as anything more than a friend and is trying to get you to lose interest by bringing up other guys or (2) she is very insecure about herself and you are not giving her enough compliments and validation that she needs to bring up other guys who are interested in her to compensate.

As you can imagine, your chances with the former woman is very low but your chances with the latter type of woman is extremely high. How can you tell which is which? Often, if you are on a date, the woman is more likely to be the latter type. Even if she isn’t, pretend she is and proceed as if she is (by escalating and trying to invite her to your place). You will know soon enough by her reactions whether or not she is indeed the insecure type who is just trying to impress you.

On the other hand, if a woman brings up other men while you are casually talking to her or texting back and forth with her (I don’t recommend doing this by the way) then most likely she is the former type: a woman who is not interested in you romantically. Another giveaway is if she brings up interest in other men. In scenario (2), usually the woman will talk more about how these guys like her as opposed to expressing her interest in them.

However, as you may suspect, the method to finding out is no different. The solution to finding out for sure is to escalate aggressively as to force a rejection or see that she is actually the latter type of girl in which case you will succeed with her quite easily in all likelihood. I wrote about this in The Solution To Mixed Signals Is Escalation. If you aren’t sure if a woman is interested in you or not, keep escalating until she has no choice but to express her interest or disinterest.

In Conclusion

While women’s actions can give us valuable insights into what they are thinking and how interested they are in us (for example, click here for articles relating to IOIs), sometimes the same action can mean two very different things, especially when they bring up other men. If you find yourself with this dilemma, don’t guess whether or not she is into you, just escalate your way to the truth!





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