June 18, 2014 / Why Getting Laid Matters
Even if your goal isn't sex, sex matters.
Admittedly, a lot of the content on Josh Sway is geared towards increasing your odds of getting laid. However, I never really addressed why I believe getting laid is so important. Not everyone wants to be a "ladies man" or a modern day Casanova. Some men, perhaps even you, are simply looking for a fruitful, happy, long lasting and fulfilling relationship with one special woman. There is absolutely nothing wrong with this; personally, it was a goal of mine at one point in my life and will likely be a goal of mine in short order again. However, even if this is our goal, getting laid matters, and knowing how to get laid matters.
Sex is the ultimate indicator of interest
At its core, an IOI is a sign that a woman is interested in you. If you want a long lasting relationship, you’ll need a woman to be interested in you. And while there are many signs of interest, the ultimate indicator of interest, is sex. Look, some women will sleep with guys they are only mildly interested in, but in general, if a woman agrees to have sex with you, she likes you. Most likely, she likes you A LOT; despite all the nonsense you hear from women claiming they are into some guys just for the sex. That’s normally not the case. And even if it is the case initially, it is often easy as the guy to convert her interest into more than just physical. Sex means interest.
Sex leads to attachment
I wrote about how "taking it slow is a bad strategy" here. In this article, I go into great detail about why I believe you should always strive to have sex with a woman you are interested in as soon as possible. I won’t rehash all those reasons here, but I want to cover one that is particularly poignant: the connection between sex and attachment.
Women get attached after sex. While I cannot scientifically prove this, it makes logical sense given evolutionary pressures and I have witnessed it first hand countless times. If you are looking for someone to be with you and desire you, you should want her to be attached to you. A great way to strengthen attachment is to use nature, and have sex.
Sex means you are doing it right
The last point I want to make about why getting laid matters is this: if you are getting sex, it means you are doing something right. Women are not always easy to read, but if they are having sex with you, reading them becomes much easier! I’ve written about how A kiss means almost nothing, and I wrote about how so many supposed indicators of interest from women are not really indicators of interest here. With all these mixed signals coming from women, it becomes difficult to know if you are really getting anywhere. Unless, you have sex.
Getting laid is a necessary step, even if your goals are not being Don Juan
The bottom line is this: sex means interest, and knowing how to get sex means knowing how to get interest, and knowing how to get interest is the first step towards achieving just about any romantic goal you may have.